Being an architect’s partner is not an easy road. Architects are trained to question societal conventions in a quest for new ideas to enrich their designs. When this quest begins at home, it can create undue pressure on their spousal relationship.
Often, when an architect experiments with new ideas they first try it in their own homes. These experiments can cause strain between the architect and their spouse.
In a non-architect household, convention, style and media dictate the primary set up. Modest trends slowly change the landscape of household. Couples don’t often experience serious disagreement in the way their living space is arranged. Generally one acquiesces to the other as long as there are no radical deviations from the norm.
However, in the household of an architect, one of their experiments in the living space for the architect can turn into an unresolved disagreement, which can escalate into a full-blown conflict. An architect’s marital bliss (or lack thereof) can be determined by how conflicts over the choice of furniture, paint colors, light fixtures and other details in and around the love nest are resolved.
My grandchildren usually come to stay with us during their annual spring break and I was showing them the wonders of architecture via a picture book of modern designed buildings. My 9 year old grandson, Yuri, spotted a tower, among the photos, that was accessible by a stair which made an easy climb to the top. He said to me “Grandpa, we should build a tower in your back yard.” Not taking the comment of a 9 year old too seriously, I expected him to quickly forget what he said.
Over the winter and in my daydreams, Yuri’s idea came to mind and I began drawing a tower structure that could become a central feature in our back yard. I showed my wife the tower design and she placated me, not thinking I was actually serious about turning such a daydream into reality. It would be idiotic to actually implement an idea like this, she thought.