As an expert, we must accept that we are “converted,” and now we want to convert others. This is a natural inclination, after all – we’re passionate about what we do. However, when we try to convert others to share our passion, it must be with their permission and done most respectfully.
Today’s post is based on a recent experience I had in my doctor’s office. I had booked an appointment for my annual check-up. The doctor arrived a half-hour late for the appointment and being the devoted time manager I am, I pointed it out that he was late. He became very up set and said to me “ my schedule is sometimes thrown off by a patient who is severely sick and needs special attention and extra time. He told me if I didn’t like it, I could look for another doctor. I felt bad for mentioning it and upsetting him.
As the tension passed, he proceeded with the examination in a very detailed and professional manner. As I left the examining room, he apologized profusely for getting up set. By this time, I realized that, it was me that should have apologized for being unkind by pointing out the doctor’s lateness. I apologized to him, as I had acknowledged that it was my zealous error.
Time management is so important to me, personally, that I took it upon myself to point out and the doctor’s lateness, despite the fact we operate in different worlds. The Dalai Lama points out that it is more important to be aware of “a single shortcoming in ourselves than a thousand in others.” I was so caught up in maintaining my own high level of time management that I forgot to search for awareness in my personal short comings.
Of course, I congratulate everyone who masters the discipline of time management. Just keep in mind, that you do it for your own gratification and benefit. Only if, if someone see the benefit in time management skills, and wishes to replicate your success, only then, should you offer to help them. This rule applies to all our skills, smarts and knowledge; you can only help those who are ready to learn, so be the best example you can be!